The Space in our heads!
I was talking to my dad on phone about my job the other day. He had been very supportive of everything that i wanted to do in life. Being someone who has spend almost his entire life in job, he always has great insights to offer. Well experienced, having seen the ups and downs in his field of work, with sincere connections in all the right places, i value his opinions a great deal and look upto him quite frequently when stuck. So when he showed concern over me going on an office trip, i was aghast as i always found him to be that kind of father who has given me the right to live my own life my way.
His reaction surprised me. I became quiet and retreated into that space in my head i had created long back. He kept on speaking but by that time i was far deep in my head hiding away. Later i called him back and shared what i felt and he, being the great father he is, understood.
But then back in my mind reality struck me harsh and fast that whatever we do, we girls will never be free of this caring grip of our loved ones. This was not the first time it happened. It just was the first time i actually noticed that safe haven inside my head that i could retreat to when i got hurt. And with this realization came a string of events playing in my mind like a movie of all the times i used to get silent when people tried to impose their views on me. And this space in my head sheltered me and gave me the strength to handle all such commanding situations. At the initial point it was a place of hiding from everything i didn't like but soon it turned into a contemplative space where i mulled over who is right; the people out there forcing me to accept something i don't believe in or my self conscience speaking a different language altogether. Gradually this secret confine in my mind became a meditative retreat strengthening my outlook towards everything and devising a way to come up with counter arguments. Ultimately this space was responsible for me becoming a headstrong person and I turned out to be a rebel of sorts. But i believe i was able to create a life out of everything that happened and it happens in general with almost every Indian girl.
Surrounded by people who care, who love, who support and not to forget those who try to suppress her indomitable spirit; We girls have been on the receiving end of this hypocrisy wrapped in the sparkling cover of love & care from a long long time. But for how long? In this era amidst the talks of women empowerment, reservations, a day dedicated to us and all those news articles or talks all around the globe; we are still the bearers of honor & reputation of the family. Why does pink has to be the color symbolizing femininity! why not aqua or gold or for that matter black! Its a great color you know. Why do we have to be the victim all the time! Why does some random person has to stand up and speak on empowerment! Girls empowerment comes from within. No one can empower you except for yourself. And this has been said repetitively by people over the years and we are still looking forward for somebody else's approval to do anything that we want to, pursue any dream of ours or simply going out. Life is given equally to both genders then why not the right to live this life be equally granted? And if not granted then take it for yourselves. In this age when we have understanding and open minded parents, friends, it is still easier to achieve this than the past times. My thoughts might sound rebellious to those keepers of tradition and culture but if i would have been scared of them then the whole point of being free and writing my mind here will be moot. So like everyone else trying to put sense into those ladies, who consider themselves victims of fate by being a girl, i too am trying to wake them into knowing they have the power to shake off this routine and being free. Trust me there is nothing as beautiful as this sense of being in control of your lives and the power to transform it. Don't wait for miracles to happen, create them along your way. Once you do it, you'll be addicted and i swear, there is no better addiction than making your own life's choices.
But then back in my mind reality struck me harsh and fast that whatever we do, we girls will never be free of this caring grip of our loved ones. This was not the first time it happened. It just was the first time i actually noticed that safe haven inside my head that i could retreat to when i got hurt. And with this realization came a string of events playing in my mind like a movie of all the times i used to get silent when people tried to impose their views on me. And this space in my head sheltered me and gave me the strength to handle all such commanding situations. At the initial point it was a place of hiding from everything i didn't like but soon it turned into a contemplative space where i mulled over who is right; the people out there forcing me to accept something i don't believe in or my self conscience speaking a different language altogether. Gradually this secret confine in my mind became a meditative retreat strengthening my outlook towards everything and devising a way to come up with counter arguments. Ultimately this space was responsible for me becoming a headstrong person and I turned out to be a rebel of sorts. But i believe i was able to create a life out of everything that happened and it happens in general with almost every Indian girl.
Surrounded by people who care, who love, who support and not to forget those who try to suppress her indomitable spirit; We girls have been on the receiving end of this hypocrisy wrapped in the sparkling cover of love & care from a long long time. But for how long? In this era amidst the talks of women empowerment, reservations, a day dedicated to us and all those news articles or talks all around the globe; we are still the bearers of honor & reputation of the family. Why does pink has to be the color symbolizing femininity! why not aqua or gold or for that matter black! Its a great color you know. Why do we have to be the victim all the time! Why does some random person has to stand up and speak on empowerment! Girls empowerment comes from within. No one can empower you except for yourself. And this has been said repetitively by people over the years and we are still looking forward for somebody else's approval to do anything that we want to, pursue any dream of ours or simply going out. Life is given equally to both genders then why not the right to live this life be equally granted? And if not granted then take it for yourselves. In this age when we have understanding and open minded parents, friends, it is still easier to achieve this than the past times. My thoughts might sound rebellious to those keepers of tradition and culture but if i would have been scared of them then the whole point of being free and writing my mind here will be moot. So like everyone else trying to put sense into those ladies, who consider themselves victims of fate by being a girl, i too am trying to wake them into knowing they have the power to shake off this routine and being free. Trust me there is nothing as beautiful as this sense of being in control of your lives and the power to transform it. Don't wait for miracles to happen, create them along your way. Once you do it, you'll be addicted and i swear, there is no better addiction than making your own life's choices.
Girls! embolden your voices, hold you head high and do use this space in your heads as a weapon to strengthen your soul and tell those who try to govern your choices to Fuck off!
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